Which one are you?
Many people, specifically my children, do not know the difference between being aggressive and being passive aggressive. So, I am here to educate the masses, but primarily them. You’re welcome. I will start with the definition of both aggressive and passive aggressive. Then, I’ll provide some examples to clarify. Or, some actionable suggestions. However you want to take it.
According to the dictionary, aggressive means ready or likely to attack or confront; characterized by or resulting from aggression.
To put it in simpler terms, I describe it as not putting up with one second of anyone’s bullshit. There is a difference, in my eyes, in being aggressive in response to a trigger versus for little to no reason. Such as the aggression causing syndrome, Little Man Syndrome. This is not a dig against anyone’s height or stature. I am talking only about Chihuahua’s and my ex-husband.
Passive Aggressive Behaviors
Again, according to the dictionary, passive aggressive means having the personality or characteristics of indirect resisting in response to the demands of others and an avoidance of direct confrontation.
In summary, Aggressive = bitch and Passive Aggressive = Little Bitch
Examples of both
- One good example is when you do something extremely helpful for someone unappreciative and they don’t say thank you or show any sort of gratitude. The aggressive way to handle this is to punch them in the face or push them down while yelling, “Get some manners, Dillrod!”
- The passive aggressive way to handle this is to whisper or speak very softly and say, “You’re welcome.” Even though they didn’t say thank you.
2. Another example is one my boss shows me constantly. He will get an e-mail with a request he considers to be beneath him. He will respond passive aggressively by typing, “This ain’t Christmas and I ain’t Santa Claus.” He also says this directly to people and via text.
The aggressive way to handle this same scenario would be to e-mail a violent threat over in response.
- Please note: e-mails and text messages are admissible in court and as evidence.
3. Being from Georgia, a commonly used passive aggressive statement is saying, “Bless your heart.”
The aggressive version is saying, “F**k you.”
So, obviously, there are benefits to both. Pick which one you use wisely. There are also downsides to both.
Don’t write a check your ass can’t cash.-My Mother